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The Pakistani Internet LoveTrap
Internet Love with a Pakistani
Every year thousands of Non-Muslim Women around the world are trapped by Pakistani men who are
usually illegal or on student visas etc in the west or sitting in Pakistan dreaming of using you to get to the west. Even if you think we are biased and generalising there is one thing common in all of these
men. That is the LIES. If you start to search for the truth about him and try to find proof for all that he tells you, you
are guaranteed to start to see lie upon lie. All the information he has given you has been false or distorted. That’s
when your eyes should start to open. It’s very difficult to do that if it is purely an internet based relationship. OUR INTERNET MARRIAGE CHECKLIST:
Now please take this with an open mind. It seems clear you are very much in Love with
this man. I would like you to first understand the background of these internet liaisons. In Pakistan and Pakistani men abroad
without permanent stay or visas in western countries do absolutely ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING to find a woman from an American,
British or wealthy country to gain permanent residency or visa status.
Literally without exaggeration there are
millions upon millions of young men (very few actually ever work or have jobs) on the internet trying to get a woman to fall
in love with them and trap them. The sad reality is they are talking to many women at once. We will give you a few examples
of a typical scenario. We went to Pakistani cities to carry out surveys and the results were shocking.
1. There is normally
a sense of urgency to marry this man from Pakistan. He will say his mother is forcing him to marry against
his will. He wants you to feel sorry for him. This puts pressure on you to save him and marry him. 2. A lot of these men are already married in Pakistan and have a wife and children. This you will find
out years later normally once you have had kids with him!!! 3. If he tells you he
has a job, its all lies or fake. That’s why they are on the internet all day as they don’t have a job.
4. Whenever a
woman abroad has doubts about the man, the man will cry like a baby and tell her you can’t leave me and say things
like I made a promise to God that we would get married so the woman feels obliged.
3. He will pretend he is only marrying you for love and doesn’t want or need a visa to your country
when in actual fact his only aim in life, only chance of a future abroad is through trapping you
4.
Lies, lies, lies. You will find gaps, odd and missing parts in his stories.
5.
He may say has already been engaged or arranged to marry someone he doesn’t
want to marry and that he only wants to marry you.
1.
A brother or friend would chat from Pakistan will chat with you on the
internet and then “hand over” the girl he has trapped to his brother whilst the poor woman who has fallen in love
doesn’t know she has been talking to the brother or friend of the man she has fallen in love with!!
7.
Pakistan is in a desperate state , poor and riddled with corruption and
no future. Men there will do anything to trap you but their culture is one of ONLY abusing women.
8.
He will say he doesn’t need your visa or he doesn’t want to
come to your country, just to pretend he is not desperate and only loves you. This can not be further from the truth. He will
do anything to get to your country as his only chance of a future. Pakistan has no functioning government, no money and no
future.
9. If you look at how women are treated
in Pakistan you would never consider marrying a Pakistani man. They are sexually, verbally and physically harassed and abused
at every opportunity. Even in simple trips to college or to the marketplace.
10. He will try not to say or do anything wrong. He will only say everything that pleases you until he gets married and
gets you to have a baby as his guarantee you won’t leave him.
11. Everything
CAN be wonderful and perfect BEFORE marriage. Its after they get what they want. You will be shocked at the change after marriage.
This is what we hear every single day. NEVER travel to Pakistan. It is way too dangerous even for Pakistani origin westerners let
alone white or other race women.
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Question:
I'm in a relationship
with a Pakistani guy and I have a few doubts on my mind about him, and with all these bad things happening between while girls
and Muslim, I thought the better way would be to get advice from people who really know Pakistani people, so I decided to
search info on Google and suddenly found your website.
I met a Pakistani guy who says he is from Malaysia, where
his father has a business. Since I met him he can't stop giving me presents, and it is good but it doesn't sound normal
because he always gives me expensive gifts such as expensive perfume, designer handbags, dresses, a watch etc.
Strangely although he claims that he has his family well established in Malaysia, he has failed to every show me any photos
or evidence or him or his family residing in Malaysia.He said his family allows love marriages and arranged marriages, but
I'm not sure about it, because he said says he broke up with another woman he was going to marry but never really gave
the reason.I am a British Citizen and he is from Pakistan but living in England. I assume he is
on a student visa or illegal. So many gifts, and I have to confess that he is trapping me with all these treats!
But that is not normal, guys in England don't give girls so many gifts! I don't know!!! I don't
know if his father really has the business in Malaysia, I don't know about his visa situation. One day when I asked him
to show me his visa status in the UK he started to avoid the subject until one day he told me he had lost his passport!
I just know him for 6 months! Is it part of the Pakistani culture to give loads of gift because its not in England?
Please, could you tell what you think! Thank you very much.
Reply:
Thank you for your email. The most
assuring part of your story is that you have become suspicious of your partner. Your suspicions are not dumbfounded.
From our vast experience, this man is like thousands of Pakistani’s who come to the west and look to trap a western
girl for mainly ONE reason; which is to gain Nationality/Permanent Residence Visa; after which they disappear and often leave
the woman to get married from Pakistan. The other reason they may stay is to have the prize possession. What’s
the prize possession? It’s a western woman. You see they still suffer from the inferiority complex and western women
especially white women are something to show off and a fantasy for them to fulfill. The way to trap a western woman is to
promise her the world, blind her with fake charm and gifts and then once married or not married get her pregnant. One she
has a baby he is likely to be able to ‘keep’ her for life.
Please carefully read the section on our
website named 'Freshy British Pakistani’s’. There you will find a comprehensive checklist which will help
you spot any Pakistani trying to marry simply for a passport. Using this checklist you will be able to establish that ;
1) He is not from Malaysia. He has most likely never been there in his life. You
can check his passport, but he will never let you see it
2) His father does not have a business
in Malaysia. (Its common for them to lie about how rich they are abroad yet they are willing to do any job in the UK)
3) He does not have an MBA. Ask him prove that he has this degree; he will not be able to. He may have
a fake one which you can buy for a few hundred pounds for bogus colleges.
4) The previous
girl left him because she worked him out or got fed up of his lies.
5) He is showering you with
gifts because he is scared to lose you.
He thinks that you are gullible enough to fall into his trap. Believe
me, money is what these men care about more than anything in this world. He only has to keep buying these gifts until he gets
his visa. Classic behaviour. By the way, if he has told you that he already has permanent residence then ask him to prove
it. The only reason he would continue the relationship is if he can use you for any further gain, like for instance,
if he can convince you to give him money, as this is the second most important thing in his life. None of this. His behaviour
is no different to how Pakistani men behave in these situation. A successful marriage/relationship is based on BOTH
people being SINCERE and HONEST.
He has already proven to be dishonest by not revealing to you the truth
about where he really is from and about his family. You probably don’t know his real name. It is very common for these
men to have two identities.Most important factor of all, in understanding these men, is to know that they are MASTERFUL LIARS.
They have the gift of the gab.
They are able to convince you of almost anything about their past, education, job
etc. I speak from years of research into this subject and from the experience of countless victims who have contacted us.
He will promise you and tell you everything that you want to hear. My advice to you would be to play it safe, why would
you want to take such a big risk? It’s good that you are thinking and observing things. If a guy is not straight forward
and you always have to think what is he doing next then its never going to be a relationship! He will never ever stop
lying. Its in their culture , everything is a lie or a game.
The biggest lies you can imagine . They can claim
anything and can say they have lived in a country they have never even been to! He knows one day he will get his
permanent stay through you. The way they trap the woman is to get her pregnant ASAP that way shes never going to leave. THE
PRESENTS WILL STOP AND ABUSE WILL START ONCE HE KNOWS HE’S GOT YOU TRAPPED OR HE GETS HIS VISA. GUARANTEED!!! We have had women inform us of men who have waited even as long as 10 years with a girl
to get their citizenship and then just left as soon as mission accomplished!!! We only know that all cases like yours
that we have come across have ended up in heartache, destruction and abuse.
If I was you I would look
for another one of the 3 billion men in the world. It’s not worth finding out the hard way. His aim will be to
get you pregnant as soon as is possible so that you are trapped for life. Islam is not what these men represent. If
you want to know what Islam is, it’s the exact opposite of this man’s true colours. Hypocrisy is very hard to
work out. It took us years to work these men out. Sorry to be so harsh but we set this website up to save anyone we can
from this hell.We sincerely hope you will not continue with this man. It is very difficult to do this
we understand . The charm and attention will be so difficult to lose but we don’t want you to look back one day at what
advice you received from our vast experience and knowledge and regret it forever.
Question:
I stumbled
upon this website due to me being a complete mess searching for help. So I will probably skip over things and come back around. My
story is definitely odd. I had met my significant other on a forum website. It was a website for just joking around, socializing,
etc. No dating or anything was involved. We spoke for about 6 months. I developed feelings for him but tried to keep them
hidden due to the fact he was in London. He soon told me he had feelings as well. He didn't want to get involved because
of the distance but we did anyhow. I didn't know he was Pakistani or Muslim until like 8 months later. He didn't want
to tell me because he was scared of losing me. He told me about his visa status and everything. None of that made a difference
to me. He was still the same person. Sure he had problems but so do i. I don't come from wealth. He semi-does. He had
told me he was the poorest of his family. None of that meant anything to me. We weren't supposed to meet. Everything was
going wrong. Then suddenly (after i had start praying and believing there is a god) we were able to meet.
I
went to London and it was the most amazing... His family made is so we could see each other. His aunt paid for my passport.
His uncle lent him the money for the ticket. We decided to file for a finance visa. I already knew his visa was expiring and
i already knew he planned on going back to Pakistan. During the wait time i got to know his family. His family means everything
to him. His mother is his world (father deceased). He had told me that i would only need her approval which i received. She
called me her daughter and couldn't wait for me to be part of the family. I got along with all of his family (mother's
side). The fiancé visa didn't go through in London. They had asked him to return to Pakistan.
He sadly
didn't listen and tried doing something else (idea was brought upon from mother's soon to-be husband). It ruined the
visa chance. The other thing didn't happen. We decided we'd go to school and get our degrees before marrying like
we originally planned. He went to Pakistan this past april. Before he had left he had done something he has never done. He
cried to me and told me to promise him we'd always be together. He also had told me he begged his mum to find a way for
us. Sadly life in pakistan has been nothing but terrible to him.
His grandmother wants to arrange a marriage....
He's being guilt tripped. He's told his grandma about me. Still nothing. I'm not sure why he's going through
with it. He always told me how terrible his grandmother is to his mother and he doesn't like his grandma. I'm
devastated. He's forcing himself to let me go. Yet he still tells me he loves me and wants to be with me. I'm in ruins. I
summed it up as much as possible. He loves me and wants to be with me. His family (mom's side) all want me in the family.
His mother already claimed me as her own. I seek your help. I also should mention I’m in the states.
Reply:
I know you may say what most western women tell us and that he is different. Please visit our "Freshy" page
on the website and the "Solution Page" both have important information regarding your matter.
I am afraid
all this "love" from his mother is to secure her sons visa. Its the single MOST important thing in their lives and
your the ONLY way to it. Please check the Freshy Trap page and go though the checklist.Try to recall everything he has ever
told you and not just words but what evidence do you have for everything he has told you?
Yes, we may be wrong
about this man but to date we have not been wrong about a single case, this is why sadly we had to set this website up to
help innocent women like you.
In our experience his family forcing him to marry another woman is just to put immediate
pressure on you to act and quickly marry him otherwise he knows you won't make a move. He has nothing else to do all day
long except work on you.
There is no way on this earth his family and believe me Pakistanis love money more than
their mother, religion anything. They even love the child that earns more and hate the one who earns less. Its hard for you
to understand this and even believe us but its true. Its a society driven by competition to be the richest.
The
crying is very normal we hear it every day from women . He is not crying for you he is crying for his visa. Hes crying at
how much money he can lose if he doesn't get you.
How can we make such judgements on a man we haven't met.
Sadly some things become a fact and character of a peoples. ALL Penguins eat fish. You will never find one that doesn't.
Yes people can be different but we have yet to come across a genuine case on an internet love or face to face. It always end
in disaster for the woman. Not the man as he gets all he wants. The woman suffers the abuse
This is strange but
we haven't found a single case to be different. This is also why Pakistan is voted EVERY year amongst the most corrupt
nations on earth alongside Nigeria etc.
Now regarding faith , please tell us if you have any dreams or that you
mentioned God and what you felt. If you have a dream in the morning please write it down as it can be interpreted and give
you a sign of what to do. That is part of our faith. We can do that for you. Also ask god for guidance on this and he will
show you in the form of a dream of a feeling.
The other thing is Islam is a beautiful very peaceful way of life
but sadly nowadays some of it followers are far from following its teachings of honesty and peace.
Please do not
hesitate to contact me.
It may be the last time we hear from you as this is usual because it may not be what you
want to hear but our job is to protect you.
If in doubt PLEASE leave out.
Also Pakistan is a nightmare
to go to. Very few dare to venture there especially foreigners as it is very dangerous for them. Despite what you might be
told.
Please don't be offended and I apologise If I have upset you. Please remember we are British born volunteers
on pakmarriages.com of Pakistani decent so this is nothing personal.
We love Pakistan but also know all about it and
that's what we do everyday try to save as many people for this life of hell.
Question:
My name is Juliette and Ive been studying Islam,
Im have not converted to Muslim yet since I want to learn and Know what I.m doing. So far the more I learn the more I grow
to love Islam and its teachings. I stumbled into this website looking for answers in the net and its very eye-opening and
scary at the same time. The reason I say this is because as I was studying Islam, I met this guy from Pakistan that offered
to help me if I had any questions about Islam.
The thing is, questions turned into hours of chatting, chatting
turned into phone calls, phone calls turned into seeing each other on cam for hours and talking all night. (nothing indecent
was done on cam)... anyways, the thing is, I think I am in Love with this guy. He says he loves me too and wants to marry
me. We have known each other for a year and I know some of his friens via chat and skype calls. He told me he just told his
mother and father about me and Im planning to go to Lahore this spring to meet him. I haven't told my parents about this
because they will think Im crazy for wanting to marry a guy from Pakistan.. He said he wants us to live in Karachi as thats
where all his family and work is and is not interested of coming to US. Of course Im very scared of living in Pakistan and
I think is crazy to leave everything and go live with the In-Laws. I don’t know them but hopefully will meet them in
March. I dont know how they will be and his 3 sisters that are of my age. (24) Im really confused and dont know if I'll
be doing the right thing after reading such horror stories. He has never been disrespectful to me and never asked to do anything
indecent. He seems very kind, sweet and hard working man.
His family recently wanted him to marry his 1st
cousin and that when he told his parents he was in love with me. I dont know what to believe now. Could he be lying to me
saying that he wants to be with me and go ahead and marry his cousin. He said his parents told him he could marry the woman
of his choice as long as she is a good Muslim or woman of the book. Now what to believe? Im very discouraged and scared after
reading all this stories? How can I know how his family will treat me and if he will change in the future? I can really make
this decide on my own. I will do the Istikhara prayer even though Im not officially a Muslim and hope God will show me the
right path.
And thanks for all the info on this website as it may be a warning send by God telling me to get out
now. The only problem is that I believe that every human has some goodness in their hearts and deserves the benefit of a doubt
so I cant judge him and his family without having any facts. And also I'm afraid that if I reject him i could miss out
on the love of my life. Im very torn.
Reply:
Its
really wonderful you are finding out about the beauty of Islam. Also please note Islam is amazing but sadly most Muslims especially
in Pakistan has forgotten its just, kind and merciful teachings.You are based in America. Every single Pakistani would die
for the chance to get to America , even the rich let alone the poor and middle class. Pakistan is a failed state. There is
no future there for anyone. Everyone wants to go abroad especially to America and the UK. This is a lie and a way to convince
you that he is not using you and he doesn’t really want to go to America!! You must know people in your home country
in South America who would do anything to go to America well this is even more because Pakistan is driven only by money. If
you have no money you are a nobody in Pakistan so they do absolutely anything to get money and America is the way to earn
it.I know this is hard on you and I do apologise. The usual way is that because he cant come to America of course, he will
make you come, get married and then the MAIN GOAL will be to get you pregnant.
That will be his guarantee that
you will never leave him. After that he will demand to go to America. Please understand these people are experts at deception.
They are angels before you get married and devils after they get what they want.We are speaking form experience. Also you
can prays and ask the only and only God for guidance and he will show you what to do. There are also lots of associations
in America that can teach about the wonderful way of Islam. These people do not practice Islam they pretend to just to get
what they want.You are a good person with a good heart and that what they know. We beg you not to find out the hard way.
Sorry but we have thousands of emails with the same problem and we have seen what hell the women have suffered. This
is a scam just like the Nigerian internet scams but this is harder to fight because they make you fall in love and emotions
are hard to fight. There are millions of men on the internet, pleased just don’t chose one from this country. We are
Pakistanis so we don’t like saying this but it’s the sad truth. We have to save as many people as possible.
PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO EMAIL US pakmarriages@yahoo.com
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