Research has uncovered a disturbing number of British Pakistani women/girls
who are marrying men they think are British, but are in fact Pakistani Nationals who already living here in the
UK, and are mostly illegal immigrants. They do not discover this until it is too late. In most cases the women are
so much in love that even when they find out they simply cannot leave ‘Prince Charming’. These men are charmers
who with there words can trap you in their web of deceit.
The men who are heavily accented are
easy to spot but there are the ones who;
a) Dress like us Brits – They simply copy what young Brits wear.
b)
Style their hair like the youth.
c)
Talk like us – Some have very good English, although when you listen
carefully it is quite easy to spot the obvious mistakes as they are very poor at reading and writing English. Test
them and you will see what I mean. They have simply picked up the language from the streets and by hanging out with
other British youngsters, hence their vocabulary will be very limited. A lot of ‘Innit’, ‘You naam sayin
bro’ and ‘whatsup’.
d) Copy
the actions of British youth by which I mean they walk the walk and talk the talk.
e)
Are good-looking so they often trap the girls quite easily, as they fall for
their looks and cannot see beyond that.
Their ONLY purpose is to marry a British woman for the Nationality. It is as simple
as that. Before they get their indefinite visa they will do anything to please you, and only show their true colour when their
visas are 100% confirmed. They say the most romantic things, buy you gifts (often with your money) to make you believe they
love you. They do not love you, they only love the passport that they will get through your gullibility.
Love is
blind, which is why most girls ignore the obvious signs, even when pointed out to them. All we can confirm is that we have
yet to be contacted by ONE woman who says she is happily married to a Pakistani man. The facts speak for themselves, just
read the ‘Real Life Stories’ section and you will understand.
The following is a checklist
for:
a) Someone looking for a partner for marriage – Please read the article
below and be sure to do the simple checks. I cannot emphasise the importance of this, as it will quite literally save you
from living in an abusive relationship which you may not be able to get yourself out of.
b) Someone who
is currently in a relationship with a Pakistani man but not yet married – Similar to the above scenario, I
cannot emphasise enough how important it is to do the simple checks listed below. It will save your life. After all what have
you got to lose. If you are in a relationship with a Pakistani man you may not know that he is an illegal immigrant. Please
perform these checks
CHECKLIST
1) His passport
and legal status in the UK – This is the very first thing
to confirm. You must eliminate this as a reason for him being with you. Ask him in general conversation about his legal status
here in the UK. Make up an excuse like ‘My friend got married to someone and she only found
out afterwards that he only married her to obtain nationality, so I would like to check’. If he cannot show you his
passport or birth certificate then he is either an illegal immigrant or does not want to show you his Pakistani passport because
it will either have a visit visa or a student visa on it.
They will have hundreds of excuses as to why they
do not have their passports, but at the end of the day if he cannot show you a British passport then you have to be suspicious
of everything he has ever told/promised you. Because these men are MASTERS OF CONVERSATION
they will try to convince you that they are NOT marrying you because of the passport, but simply because he loves you. Don’t
fall for it!
2)
His job (if he has one) – It
is important to confirm where he works, if at all, because they almost always lie about where they work.
This is quite simple to do. You can say you would like to meet him outside his workplace when he finishes work or something
similar. If he makes excuses then you know he is hiding something. Why would he want to hide something like his employment?
If they really are working they usually say they are managers or supervisors, they never admit to being unskilled workers
like restaurant waiters etc, because this is too embarrassing for them. If he can lie about where he works then he
can lie about anything.
3)
His name – They almost
always use a different name to their real names. If they are illegal in the UK they probably entered
the UK without a passport and gave the authorities a false name. His name is not that important,
it his conduct and intention which is. The reason it is relevant is because it proves that he is a liar and has something
to hide about his legal status in the UK.
4) His
well spoken English – This one is the most difficult for almost all women to work out.
You see, some of the Pakistani men who came here relatively young, say below16 years old, have managed to improve their English
to such an extent that to someone meeting them for the first time it would appear that this person must be British born. Because
these men are naturally masters of deception and very good actors, they can easily mimic any regional accent. The simple way
to catch them out it is by trying to make them use difficult long words. Being illiterate, they will also not be able/struggle
to read or fill in any forms, so you can test them using this method.
5)
His Family – If his family
are living in the UK it will convince you that he is permanently settled here in the UK.
Don’t be fooled by this. His family, along with him, are highly likely to be living in the UK
as Asylum Seekers. There are thousands of families who came to the UK, possibly as visitors, and
applied for asylum. There applications can take years to be decided upon. If his mother is fully
supporting of his sons choice of you as a girlfriend/future partner then this is reason to be suspicious. You and I both know
how our mothers would react if one of our brothers came home and told Ami Jee (mum) that he has been seeing someone
(has a girlfriend) and wants to get married of his own choice. She would hit him round the head with the velna (rolling
pin) because 99.99% of Pakistani mother never accept it. The mothers of these types of men fully support their sons in trapping
a British girl for marriage with their often spoilt ‘Princes’ because this will benefit her too. It enhances her
visa prospects and brings in money (see below).
6) Money
– Besides the obvious greed for the indefinite visa, there can be an added bonus for these
types of men. They know that girls who are in regular employment usually have money saved up. They quickly establish if you
have any savings and they will not rest until that money is with them. They know they can convince straight forward gullible
girls like you to part with this money. They have hundreds of ‘believable’ excuses to make you give them the money,
like they need to buy a car, need to pay of debts, need to send money to Pakistan for their mothers
operation or need to set up a business. You will fall for his lies because you will be blinded by the love you have for him.
Please note that I said ‘the love you have for him’ and not the other way round, because he has no love for you.
He only loves your passport and any money you may give him, money which, by the way, you will NEVER
see again.
7)
Quick Marriage/Arranging his papers– This is one to
watch out for. If this does not get the alarm bells ringing then you are well and truly trapped.
You have to understand that on merit and character alone no-one would marry these men hence when they trap a woman like you,
it is like winning the lottery. They may never get a golden opportunity like this again. This is the primary reason they want
to arrange a quick Nikah (Islamic Marriage) so that your relationship is permanent. These men,
along with any family they may have here, will push your family to do the Nikah as soon as possible and then take
care of other less important things like Mehndi, Bharaat and Walima. The Nikah is usually hastily
arranged and performed at home with just the immediate families present. Does that remind anyone of your ‘Big Day’.
What you thought was your big day was in fact his ‘Big Day’.
Have
any of you already made the trip to solicitors office to get the ball rolling for your ‘fiancé’s’
paperwork. Come on now admit it, I know it is embarrassing, but you fell for it. We had one story where the man took his future
wife on a shopping trip and while they were there he manage to convince the girl to ‘pop in’ to see his solicitor
and do the necessary paperwork for his stay. She obviously fell for it and he has now got what he wanted and she is so pleased
for him. If only she could see what is around the corner.
To conclude I would kindly request that if you or anyone you know is contemplating
marrying someone who is or it seems he is from Pakistan, then please, please take
my sincere advice and use the above checklist to make sure you are making the right choice.
May Allah
be with you and guide us all.
