Research has uncovered a
disturbing number of British Pakistani women/girls who are marrying men they think are British, but are in fact Pakistani
Nationals who already living here in the UK, and are mostly illegal immigrants. They do not discover this
until it is too late. In most cases the women are so much in love that even when they find out they simply cannot leave ‘Prince
Charming’. These men are charmers who with there words can trap you in their web of deceit.
The
men who are heavily accented are easy to spot but there are the ones who;
a) Dress
like us Brits – They simply copy what young Brits wear.
b) Style their hair like
the youth.
c) Talk like us – Some have very good English, although when you listen
carefully it is quite easy to spot the obvious mistakes as they are very poor at reading and writing English. Test
them and you will see what I mean. They have simply picked up the language from the streets and by hanging out with
other British youngsters, hence their vocabulary will be very limited. A lot of ‘Innit’, ‘You naam sayin
bro’ and ‘whatsup’.
d) Copy the actions of British youth by which I
mean they walk the walk and talk the talk.
e) Are good-looking so they often trap the girls
quite easily, as they fall for their looks and cannot see beyond that.
Their ONLY purpose is to marry a British
woman for the Nationality. It is as simple as that. Before they get their indefinite visa they will do anything to please
you, and only show their true colour when their visas are 100% confirmed. They say the most romantic things, buy you gifts
(often with your money) to make you believe they love you. They do not love you, they only love the passport that they will
get through your gullibility.
Love is blind, which is why most girls ignore the obvious signs, even
when pointed out to them. All we can confirm is that we have yet to be contacted by ONE woman who says she is happily married
to a Pakistani man. The facts speak for themselves, just read the ‘Real Life Stories’ section and you will understand.
The following is a checklist for:
a) Someone looking for a partner for marriage
– Please read the article below and be sure to do the simple checks. I cannot emphasise the importance of this, as it
will quite literally save you from living in an abusive relationship which you may not be able to get yourself out of.
b) Someone who is currently in a relationship with a Pakistani man but not yet married – Similar
to the above scenario, I cannot emphasise enough how important it is to do the simple checks listed below. It will save your
life. After all what have you got to lose. If you are in a relationship with a Pakistani man you may not know that he is an
illegal immigrant. Please perform these checks
CHECKLIST
1) His
passport and legal status in the UK – This is the very first thing to
confirm. You must eliminate this as a reason for him being with you. Ask him in general conversation about his legal status
here in the UK. Make up an excuse like ‘My friend got married to someone and she only found out afterwards that he only
married her to obtain nationality, so I would like to check’. If he cannot show you his passport or birth certificate
then he is either an illegal immigrant or does not want to show you his Pakistani passport because it will either have a visit
visa or a student visa on it.
They will have hundreds of excuses as to why they do not have their passports,
but at the end of the day if he cannot show you a British passport then you have to be suspicious of everything he has ever
told/promised you. Because these men are MASTERS OF CONVERSATION they will try to convince you that they are NOT marrying
you because of the passport, but simply because he loves you. Don’t fall for it!
2) His job (if he has one) – It is important to confirm where he works, if at all, because they almost always lie about where
they work. This is quite simple to do. You can say you would like to meet him outside his workplace when he finishes work
or something similar. If he makes excuses then you know he is hiding something. Why would he want to hide something like his
employment? If they really are working they usually say they are managers or supervisors, they never admit to being unskilled
workers like restaurant waiters etc, because this is too embarrassing for them. If
he can lie about where he works then he can lie about anything.
3) His name
– They almost always use a different name to their real names. If they are illegal in the UK they probably
entered the UK without a passport and gave the authorities a false name. His name is not that important, it his conduct and
intention which is. The reason it is relevant is because it proves that he is a liar and has something to hide about his legal
status in the UK.
4) His
well spoken English – This one is the most difficult for almost all women
to work out. You see, some of the Pakistani men who came here relatively young, say below16 years old, have managed to improve
their English to such an extent that to someone meeting them for the first time it would appear that this person must be British
born. Because these men are naturally masters of deception and very good actors, they can easily mimic any regional accent.
The simple way to catch them out it is by trying to make them use difficult long words. Being illiterate, they will also not
be able/struggle to read or fill in any forms, so you can test them using this method.
5) His Family – If his
family are living in the UK it will convince you that he is permanently settled here in the UK. Don’t be fooled by this.
His family, along with him, are highly likely to be living in the UK as Asylum Seekers. There are thousands of families who
came to the UK, possibly as visitors, and applied for asylum. There applications can take years to be decided upon. If
his mother is fully supporting of his sons choice of you as a girlfriend/future partner then this is reason to be suspicious.
You and I both know how our mothers would react if one of our brothers came home and told Ami Jee (mum) that he has
been seeing someone (has a girlfriend) and wants to get married of his own choice. She would hit him round the head with the
velna (rolling pin) because 99.99% of Pakistani mother never accept it. The mothers of these types of men fully support
their sons in trapping a British girl for marriage with their often spoilt ‘Princes’ because this will benefit
her too. It enhances her visa prospects and brings in money (see below).
6) Money – Besides the obvious greed for the indefinite visa, there can
be an added bonus for these types of men. They know that girls who are in regular employment usually have money saved up.
They quickly establish if you have any savings and they will not rest until that money is with them. They know they can convince
straight forward gullible girls like you to part with this money. They have hundreds of ‘believable’ excuses to
make you give them the money, like they need to buy a car, need to pay of debts, need to send money to Pakistan for their
mothers operation or need to set up a business. You will fall for his lies because you will be blinded by the love you have
for him. Please note that I said ‘the love you have for him’ and not the other way round, because he has no love
for you. He only loves your passport and any money you may give him, money which, by the way, you will NEVER see again.
7) Quick Marriage / Arranging his papers
– This is one to watch out for. If this does not get the alarm bells ringing then you are well and truly trapped.
You have to understand that on merit and character alone no-one would marry these men hence when they trap a woman like you,
it is like winning the lottery. They may never get a golden opportunity like this again. This is the primary reason they want
to arrange a quick Nikah (Islamic Marriage) so that your relationship is permanent. These men, along with any
family they may have here, will push your family to do the Nikah as soon as possible and then take care of other
less important things like Mehndi, Bharaat and Walima. The Nikah is usually hastily arranged and
performed at home with just the immediate families present. Does that remind anyone of your ‘Big Day’. What you
thought was your big day was in fact his ‘Big Day’.
Have any of you already made the trip to solicitors office to get the ball rolling for your ‘fiancé’s’
paperwork. Come on now admit it, I know it is embarrassing, but you fell for it. We had one story where the man took his future
wife on a shopping trip and while they were there he manage to convince the girl to ‘pop in’ to see his solicitor
and do the necessary paperwork for his stay. She obviously fell for it and he has now got what he wanted and she is so pleased
for him. If only she could see what is around the corner.
HE WILL DO ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING TO MARRY YOU AND WILL NOT STOP TILL HE GETS THAT NIKAH DONE AND THEN YOUR LIFE IS OVER.
To conclude I would kindly request that if you or anyone you know is contemplating marrying someone who
is or it seems he is from Pakistan, then please, please take my sincere advice and use the above checklist
to make sure you are making the right choice.
May Allah be with you and guide us all.
