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Bradford Blues

My name is Aisha, I live in Bradford. When I was 18, I was taken to Pakistan to marry my first cousin from a village just outside Mirpur, Azad Kashmir.I was married without my consent. I tried to tell my parents that I do not have anything in common with this person from a different country yes it is a very different country. After all what does an upbringing in Great Britain have to do with the culture, ideas and upbringing in Pakistan?Nevertheless, under immense family pressure I unwilling went ahead with the Nikah and knew that it was a big mistake. I tried my very best to make it work. I was a doing absolutely everything in my power to please my husband and my in-laws .My brother had in the same trip just married another cousin from the village. He was overwhelmed by this ‘clever girl’ who seemed to know how to control my brother so well he could never see what I was suffering. He was blinded by her charisma (don’t forget this is a illiterate village girl who now my brother has realised has destroyed his life). But that’s another story.My parents were so happy (I still love them. Don’t we all!)  that now not one but two of their nephews and nieces and their families could benefit financially from this TRANSACTION! Not realising our destruction was imminent.Marriage from the first night till now has been no less than abuse, mental torture, ungratefulness and a complete disaster.
 

Aisha, Bradford
 


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Daily Jang Daily! 


I got married 12 years ago. His foremost love in this world was money. Apart from that it was his daily praise of his country, arguing about how pure and developed Pakistan was and its people being the best in the world. I would hear the U.K being cursed and sworn at everyday and how rubbish this country was. Politics sourced from the daily Jang newspaper caused major headaches in the house. I would hear praises of corrupt current and former rulers of Pakistan.I tried absolutely everything to please him. I financially supported his poor family. I sponsored his brother’s visa to come to this country. I got his younger sister married and went to the wedding in Pakistan with bucket loads of gifts and clothes and I did not hear the word that the whole planet uses. What’s that word hmmmm…..oh yeah its ‘Thank You’.He mentally tortured me, would play mind games and say to me women are worth less than the dirt on a man’s shoes. He really believes that and was proud that it was his valued culture from Pakistan. Once he read in the Jang Urdu newspaper that in Balochistan four women had been buried alive. His response to this evil act was that was good and right  (bilkul theek kiya hai) as the women must have done something wrong! He has the same attitude towards women that get raped!These type of men forget in less than a spilt second the very person who gives them anything whether it be a British passport, home , money or respect. They always destroy the very person who made them what they are today.He was ‘religious’ yet amazingly he would say “I never have to ask for forgiveness as I have never done any ziyadti with anyone or done anything wrong. Basically he was perfect. Alhamdullilah, I left him and got my divorce through the Islamic council. Now I have complete peace of mind. No more abuse, ungratefulness and torture. My children are better off without a father who only earned for himself, taught them nothing but ignorance and bad habits. I have full faith in Allah and he will protect me and my children .We are not in Africa, we will not starve or suffer. If the right non-Pakistani comes along I will be happy to remarry if not Alhamdulilah I am still a million times better off.

 
Fauzia , Bromley 

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 Sister-in-law from Hell

Salaams Sister

What an enlightening website!  MashAllah!  I am absolutely stunned how accurate you are, without even knowing who my sister in law is, you have described as if you have met her and had cups of tea in her house from your childhood to adult hood.

Let me tell you my story.  My brother got married from
Pakistan with a village girl.  She's nothing special to look at, so it wasn't beauty that won my brother over- but it was because my mother insisted he married due to his age (he was 36) Now my mother bless her, thought she was doing an immense favour on a family who was extremely poor, and making it so they are a 'waras' of the home.  She thought all Pakistani women were good women.  She, like all Pakistani mothers, has deep respect for the people of Pakistan and Pakistan
itself.  Now, you mentioned being tricked by a relative, well, this was done by our very own chachi, (who is my sister in laws khala) She made it out like our sister in law was something pretty special, and would be specifically trained to live with us, who we would never be able to find fault, she provided so many reassurances and mother took her word.  However we never really got to meet her or even talk to her, as she made sure we didn't engage in any conversations with her and she lied about her age making her a couple of years older than she was.

Needless to say the marriage took place.  And months later she started to show her true colours by demanding money, her 'Haq'.  From that point on, my sisters and I pretty much sussed her out and advised our mum not to make the mistake of bringing her to the
UK.  But they did anyway, as they wanted the marriage to work.  Now months later, she is finally in the UK
.  She arrived on a winters evening, not even a warm smile coloured her face or cheeks.  She would constantly create tensions (as my brother was not living in the home and she wanted to be with him) Ok, understandable.  Now, 6 months later he is living here.  But like you mentioned she pretty much targeted the mother-in-law.  Her hate for my mother is soo strong that it oozes out into the house, bringing tension, constant dramas, disrespect.  She is very 'chalak' and will only cook in front of my brother as well as cleans, so he can see and thinks we are infact the bad ones.  She now only cooks for my brother and spends all her time upstairs in the bedroom.  She will say comments that are downright cheeky and make you gasp at her audacity.  Like you said, my mother thought she would be grateful, instead she got 'why did you get me married, here', 'I want to live in my own house', and ‘I hate your mother'.

One thing you didn't mention though was the constant lies told about dying or having a severe illness, which meant she can't cook, clean or even do anything.  But had the energy to go to the park or take little rides in the car, even opportunity to put on her make-up (once in a blue moon, not that this makes her anymore beautiful)  But my brother, bless him, is sucker and a fool, because he is easily weakened by her.

As you said, she has been trying to get herself pregnant for months and months now, to establish herself here.  I think she will probably be successful, because no matter how much we tell my brother what she is really about, and even though he knows this about her, he still is with her.  She is not willing to go back to
Pakistan
, so my brother will now have to be stuck with her forever.

And thats where the story ends.... Another family, another sucker was born....

JazakAllah for listening.


 
Jekyll and Hyde

 
I’ve been married 14 years. Talk about split personality!. One second he’s like smiling and I’ll go to make a cup of tea for him and totally without warning he will start shouting. Why did you go to the shopping centre yesterday or come up with some other silly reason to argue?I am so depressed because I can’t do anything that pleases him. He is unpredictable to say the least and totally ungrateful. He is not mentally stable. 

Tasnim, Withheld
 


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Not Two faced but Few faced.
 

I am not sure if he is a Muslim because Islam defines. He is sweet on EVERYONES face but as soon as they leave the house he curses them.The unislamic things he does are imaginable and I cant even describe them out of not offending anyone. Is my Nikah valid with a hypocrite as hypocrites are worse than Kafirs and will be in the lowest hell.
 Narrated By 'Abdullah bin 'Amr
The Prophet said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up.

1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays.
2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie.
3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous.
4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner."
 


My husband has all of the above? IF YOU MEET HIM YOU WILL THINK HE’S THE NICEST PERSON ON THE PLANET BUT IN REALITY HE THE MOST HEARTLESS, CALLOUS PERSON I’VE EVER MET.
 

See a Kafir is blatant he drinks , does the Haram doesn’t hide it , whereas a hypocrite is the one who PROCLAIMS ISLAM, talks about it even preaches it and possibly has a beard!Anyone who utters the Shahadah without commitment is A MUNAFIQ (Pretender). A KAFIR IS BETTER THAN A MUNAFIQ. Because you know the former is your enemy; but the latter pretends to be A MUSLIM He controls my every movement. I can’t meet my best friends. He gets jealous at the slightest opportunity of me having even a glimpse of happiness. After which he will do everything to remove that happiness.
 


Anonymous 



He Says He’s the Best Father
 


My one abuses our children, always swearing at them and never spends a penny of his money on them. You see that’s his money (the money he earns is for hoarding and his family only) .I happily spend our money on my children. He has never been nice to me as he says that would “spoil” me.I am living with this animal and it’s been 10 very long years rather like a life sentence for no crime committed. No one knows and no one cares. Not even my family. I have had to call the police on him many times due to his physically violent behaviour but he never changes as he sees nothing wrong with his behaviour. He sees himself as an angel. He keeps promising he will change, I keep taking him back and then it’s Groundhog Day all over again.He is always angry and miserable. He has never been happy and is always discontent. Having lived with him for over 10 years I now know why he is always miserable. It’s because these people (yes there all the same) are so ungrateful to people and Allah that Gods’ curse is on them to never be content.He even challenges and curses Allah. He says “Allah why have you been so horrible to me? Why have you done this to me? “.
Done what I ask? He drives a Mercedes, eats meat everyday (yes Daal is haram for these people). He drinks fizzy drinks like there from the fountain of eternal youth. I have 2 lovely children and don’t know what to do!! Someone advise me please (sorry but I’m in tears now).  

Anonymous ,Dewsbury
  
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Control Freak 

My husband is a complete control freak. He checks my phone and goes through the log of calls and text messages. I am never allowed to talk to a man but he can talk to as many women as he likes. He controls my every movement. I can’t meet my best friends. He gets jealous at the slightest opportunity of me having even a glimpse of happiness. After which he will do everything to remove that happiness. He has to do this because he has nothing to offer the world and knows I can do much better without him.
 
Anonymous, Bradford

 
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Insecure 
 

My psycho (can’t think of a better name) is so insecure as he knows I am capable of achieving success in life that he constantly puts me down and degrades me. I even start to think I am completely worthless because that’s all I have heard for the last four and a half years. He once argued with me that Doctor is spelt ‘Doctar’. That’s just one example of how Jahil these people are. He still sticks to the fact that it is spelt Doctar ! He has made my life a living nightmare. I’m fed up and don’t know what to do.
 

Anonymous
 
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Was anyone going to tell me? 

I got married from Karachi in 1999. My parents had arranged this Rishta without telling me. I was at college and wanted to go on and become a doctor but for them it was more important that their reputation as parents whose daughter would never refuse their choice of life partner be maintained. The irony was that I was the last one to find out that I was about to get married.I could not save myself. I would just like to describe my experiences in these words.
These men have ”Unstable split personalities, Play Mind games, Enjoy  Harassment etc etc…  It will be a living hell. Do not do it. Please believe me.” 

Sana 
  


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My Holiday to Karachi 


I was married to an ‘educated’ man from Karachi. I did not plan this marriage. I went to Pakistan on holiday with my family. I met him at a cousin’s house and was overwhelmed by his constant smile and pampering of me and my family. He told me he was an I.T consultant which was a lie as was so many other things. Before the marriage he treated me and my family to ice parlours, shopping sprees in Karachi not to mention the finest restaurants. He seemed at the time like a very generous man. He would even give money to the poor beggars in front of me and my family.I jumped at the opportunity as I thought I would be the luckiest girl in the world to marry this man.  So unexpectedly agreed to his proposal and married him in the same holiday. I did not plan to get married so soon but I was so overwhelmed by his charm.After the Nikah I stayed behind with him for almost 1 year. This is when I saw his true colours. He was the exact opposite of what he was before our marriage. He would swear at the poor and was extremely miserly. We never went out anywhere. The shopping trips and ice cream trips were just to lure me into marrying him. I left him in Karachi and never bought him to England. Thank God
 

Samina, London

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My Family
 


My husband always curses his family but when it comes to giving them money and support he will do anything for them just because it’s his culture. They are so horrible to him and he knows that but he can’t focus on his own children. He spends hardly a penny on his own kids and if he does he always angry and in a mood but his nephews and nieces back home have to get everything and his sisters of course. He believes the only women in the world worthy of respect are sisters and his mother .All other women are worthless including his wife.
 I don’t mind him living for his family even though he hates them and they hate him. He does not fulfil our rights at all. 

Anonymous , London
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His Student Visa


 
I met a Pakistani man on a student visa outside a shopping centre in Manchester. I was always told by my friends to never marry a ‘freshie’ but I didn’t care as he was so nice. I thought my friends were just jealous. Little did I know that when he was staring into my big brown eyes he could only see a red passport!Anyway, got married in a rush. He had no family here so the rishta was done through a family he knew. My whole family was so impressed with him. He was apparently so nice until he applied for his, yes, you have guessed it indefinite leave to remain. He applied for it got the stay and the rest is history. I don’t know where he is., He just left and I am still in Nikah. I have applied to the Shariah council for invalidation of the Nikah. 

Anonymous, Manchester

 
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Attacked my Younger Sister
 

My stories similar to many sisters on this site. The only additional thing I would like to add is that my one made an sexual advance on my 17 year old younger sister. She was viciously attacked whilst at home on her own. She has never been able to recover from the mental scars and is suffering from depression and low self esteem. She does not go out anymore. He had no remorse and denied the whole thing.I thankfully kicked him out. I have now Alhamduililah moved on and found a brother on an online matrimonial site. He’s British, straightforward and civilised and we are getting married next month inshaAllah. 
 

Anonymous

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History Repeating

 
My dilemma is that not only am I suffering, I am so scared of him that I am so afraid that I will not be able to stop him getting my 2 daughters to his nephews.If I cant stop it they will suffer an even worse fate than me because now the men there are bigger and better as they are the internet generation and know even more. I worry for my daughter’s future. I can’t fight him he’s too violent and aggressive. He says they have to marry from there. I may have to get the UK government involved when the time comes. 

Anonymous, Burton 

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My Husband was “Educated”
 

I got engaged to a cousin in 1999 who was apparently educated so I thought I was one of the lucky ones! I thought because he was educated I would be just fine. How wrong was I? He had a degree in Psychology. Don’t be impressed because I know you won’t believe me but he couldn’t spell psychology. You see the education system there is flawed (as is everything - riddled with corruption). In Pakistan for your “education”, you can cheat or learn in a parrot fashion (memorise without understanding a thing) or bribe someone. That’s why the educated are not like the educated here or I would say anywhere in the world. Where else can you find an English literature graduate who can’t write a single correct sentence in English! Besides education does not stop the corrupt ideas and culture!My husband, before the Nikah was ‘exceptionally nice to me and my family. Our wishes were his command. You name it, he did it to please us. I was overwhelmed and so impressed. I did not realise until after he came to England. You see he needed me to get to the land of milk and honey and I was just the thing to use and abuse to get to the U.K. Once here, he refused to work as he knew I had a good job. He would demand special treatment from me and my family. Food had to be completely fresh and yesterday’s food was impossible to ever be eaten. All this fussy attitude shocked me as he was earning less than £1 a day in Pakistan. Don’t worry they all say they had “bank ki nokri” there and were earning Rs.100,000 a month and were given a house and car by the company. All a load of *%^£. I fell pregnant and went through an exceptionally difficult (due to a rare condition) pregnancy on my own. He did not attend the birth and would never be home.  In 5 years of marriage he never once sympathised with me on any matter. For a Pakistani man to show affection to his wife is a cardinal sin. He did not have a heart of stone he was simply heartless.I am still living with him but cant see myself suffering all my life. I am considering leaving him.I have many friends who married from Pakistan all with similar stories the only problem is they have no voice as their families don’t want to rock the boat, discuss it, confront the man, or they keep quite for honours sake.
 

Anonymous, Surrey
  

Two sisters
 

I am born and bred in Birmingham. Brummie through and through lol. My sister and I got married to two brothers from Peshawar. Big mistake is an understatement. Our husbands came to England and the fights would just not stop. We bought a house with my dad’s money for all 4 of us to live in. My sister and I had no bad intentions so bought the house solely in our husband’s names. During our marriage my husband made a move on my sister. We would both cry all the time as they would harass us all the time. My sister got pregnant and had a baby. Now we are both divorced and fighting for the house that we paid for. 

 
Anonymous, Birmingham

 
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 I’m a GP (I was Grossly Pessimistic) 

Asalam’alaaikam, I am a medical doctor and live in Forest Gate, London. My marriage was arranged by my family. He claimed to be an engineer. It only came to light after the wedding that it was actually his father who was an engineer and not him !! Weird? I know ! It’s like that in Pakistan. At the local Chemists ‘the dispensary man’ is called Doctor Sahib!He was manipulative, cunning and highly arrogant. I left my highly paid job in London to work in a hospital in Karachi on his insistence. I wanted to do the right thing and be the committed and loyal wife that one should be.I worked in 3 hospitals and what I saw is inconceivable to any civilised person. My colleagues (the highly educated doctors) were heartless, unprofessional and ruthless. The irony was that many had studied and practiced in the west therefore knew what ethical codes doctors were obliged to abide by internationally. I would see the poor suffer so give them free treatment. For displaying human sympathy, I lost my job in one of the hospitals. Doctors would prescribe medicines to the poor that were only contrived and fit for animals. I am not exaggerating in the slightest. If during an operation a person was dying there would be no sense of urgency or responsibility to save this person. Contentiousness was non-existent. This is the country from where I married. I was constantly told not to be kind to the poor and needy and even prevented from helping! Regardless of this, I did the best I could as a Muslim and human being. Sorry but I had to tell you this even though it’s not related to my marriage.Back to my husband. My life with him was not a marriage it was a constant battleground. I dislike arguments whereas his immense anger was uncontrollable and would lead to him breaking things in the house. He would constantly put me down and tell me I am worthless. He was insecure and inconsequential so he had to put me down .The strange thing is I actually started to believe I was worthless.The only reason he never he hit me was that he was scared of what people would think. See these people don’t fear or even believe in God in my opinion. They only fear their fake reputation being harmed. After countless arguments and 3 years he finally decided to let me go back to England with him. I fell pregnant in the U.K and had our child in 2005. He refused to get a job as I was a high earner. I lived with him only because he was the biological father of my son. He was not a father in any other way whatsoever. Arguments continued. I tried counselling with him nothing worked. I finally applied for a divorce and am now happily married to a Doctor.
 

Hira, Forest Gate
 

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The Tenant
 

My story is about the man I married whom I know very little about. You see he lives in my house in the same way as a tenant. Only difference being that tenants actually pay rent!He does not pay any bills and I pay the mortgage. He does however bring meat home for me to cook for him and not to mention he always has enough money for his cigarettes and petrol. He drives my car so as to not use any petrol in his car. See for him it’s a ‘Me, Myself and I’ attitude. He is boring and selfish. He does not want to work so works part time on and off .He goes out all day long and comes back usually around before dawn. I stay up all night waiting for him and because I am scared on my own at night with the kids. My family don’t give a damn about me.

 
 
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The Job Applications

 
My ones father owned a general store in a village on the outskirts of Jhelum. By the way the general/grocery store was spelt “GANERAL STORES”. He would mention his dad’s shop which had sales of Rs.4000 a month (£35 a month) as if it was bigger than Tescos’.He came to England and I showed him the sights. The London Eye, Big Ben, Madame Tussauds, the Tate Gallery etc nothing impressed him as Jhelum was much bigger and better of course!!I tried to get him a job everywhere. I must have filled in 100’s of application forms. Most interviews he would not even turn up for and others he attended he just could not get the job as he can only speak broken English and can’t even hold a conversation with a brick wall.I still filled in the forms and send out his CV (if you can call it that!).Don’t ask why I even bother! He cant’ get a job and when he gets one it’s never good enough so he leaves after a week or so.Its all my fault……..When it rains it’s my fault, He can’t speak English its my fault, He is not ‘successful’ it’s my fault, He has no money it’s my fault’ Its all my fault. 

Anonymous, Dudley

 
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  The Call from Croydon

 
Yes you’ve probably guessed. Got married, he waited 3 years .one day he got a magical letter, went to the Home office in Croydon for this indefinite stay without telling me. That day he gave me a ‘missed call’ because he didn’t want to waste his money. I called him back and he told me that he had just got his permanent residence in the U.K and that was all that he married me for. I never heard of him again. I complained to his family and they fully supported him. You see his family promised me and assured me he would never do that.He left me with a 7 month old daughter. I pray to Allah for justice and advise everyone to learn from what happened to me. 

Anonymous, Willesden  Green
 

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Money Money Money!!! 

Not much to say really. Just that “The Be End And All End” for him is Money. The only topic of discussion is money, the only aim in life is money. And it can come through fraud, work or siphoning. He even can’t wait for my dad to die would you believe. He challenged my father and questioned him about his will. He says he wants the English law equivalent paid to him (not me the daughter!) when my dad dies. He’s arguing that the Shariah amount (equal to half of my brother’s share) is not fair. How evil and greedy can you get? He has absolutely no honour or dignity. This is a man who dresses Islamic ally and has a long beard!!!!He is full of jealously and hates everyone but meets them like their long lost family. He can’t take anyone having a nice car ,house or any success in life.Money is his only mission and he will do everything to get to it. What does he do with the money? Well, nothing just counts it again and again!! 

Noora ,Huddersfield
 

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The Mysterious Second Wife

 
I am from High Wycombe. I married a Pakistani man who was already married and had kids in Pakistan. His family did not tell us of course. I used to wonder why he would go to Pakistan for 4 months at a time. Now I know why! He lives with me just because its free and he can save up money to go Pakistan and spend on his “real family”. 

Anonymous, High Wycombe
 


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Nothing Works
 My husband argues constantly. He looks for a reason to fight. When I try to reason with him no logic works. Arguments are based on similar issues as below:  

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         Why did you wear a red suit today? It was to annoy me!
·         Why did you go to your sisters house?
·         Why didn’t your brother do salam to me properly?
·         You were staring at that guy in the shop.
·         Why do you have to speak English, speak Punjabi with your cousins? 

I’ve tried every way possible. If I remain quite, he will provoke me until I respond. If I shout the kids suffer so I can’t do that, if I speak nicely he gets even more arrogant.
 I can’t find a solution. 

Asma
 

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Paddy Power 

My husband came to this country and worked for a year in a sandwich factory. He is now a cab driver when he wants to be! He got into a habit of gambling and just can’t kick the habit. Well it’s not just that. He can’t stop kicking me when I don’t give him money for his habit.
 

Anonymous, High Wycombe


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‘Weed’ Never Get Married If I Knew

 
My husband is a drug addict. He was already an addict in Pakistan but no one told us. His family knew. Once he got here he looked for his type of people on street corners. I have 3 children. I used to drive but can’t anymore. Guess why? He sold my car for money. The car was worth £2000 he sold it £750.Why should he care it’s only his wife and kids. By the way in case you’re thinking, I paid for the car.I’m still married and everyday is an uphill struggle……..

 
Maryam 

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Meat, Meat and more Meat.
 

Meat is everything. I am never allowed to cook vegetables. Pizza and pasta are also out of the question. Meet everyday twice a day. Its been 21 years and its meat everyday with 4 rotis every time. Not to mention the only thing he drinks is coca cola. Water is forbidden he can only drink coke. I tried to understand it and worked out that because he was poor and he cant believe he can have meat every day and coke is a luxury in Pakistan he can’t get over it. His greed for the stuff just does not diminish.  Why don’t other nationalities behave, like this????


 
Anonymous, Burnley 

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My Rado Watch
 

Being a very positive and romantic person, when I got married I tried my very best to please my husband. I was also aware of my Islamic duty to my husband.He arrived at Heathrow wearing his brown 'flairs' and a cream shirt. I went the following day to NEXT and bought him some sets of clothes. There was no appreciation . But this went on for many years. He would abuse me. I would chase him and try to please him. I would call his mobile constantly and worry about him not being happy with me. I have bought him a BMW, the all essential Rado watch, designer suits you name it , but he has never said thank you of appreciated anything. Rather he says I have done absolutely nothing for him. He constantly puts me down. He tells me all the time that I am useless and that he can find a better wife any day.

He has no shame when discussing disgraceful things he’s done. He happily discusses his corruption with great pride. He says “I once worked for someone and used to steal cash from the till” and “I made a fool of that person” to name a few. I was lucky my best friend was married to one as well. She told me a strange thing. If you’re good to them they will destroy you more and more. I know it goes against logic and the civilised world but that’s why they treat people badly. To gain respect!. Don’t ask why. It works its just does!!So I still cook for him and look after him I just don’t do the things he will never appreciate. The things he will throw back in my face again and again. Its still not a happy marriage as he will never change as Pakistani men are stubborn, arrogant and never accept their fault.
 The only solution is to not live with one! You can’t beat them. They are too stubborn and ignorant. They never give up. You will get tired and end up depressed or in a mental asylum. I found my solution in following Islam and knowing that it is not my right to be treated like this. 

Anonymous,Glasgow

 


 
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