Why Does It Happen?

THE FACTS ABOUT YOUR WIFE (OR SISTER-IN-LAW)

Our research has shown that Pakistani women who marry men from the UK are all the same or very similar in their traits. This is not a case of painting everyone with the same brush but simply relaying the facts to other British Pakistani’s and alerting them to the fact that they are not alone. Not only are they not alone but everyone is going through the same grief and stress. The reason why you still think that your friend’s wife or your cousin from Pakistan is really nice is because she is a hypocrite. She is all decent and innocent on your face (that’s exactly what a hypocrite is; nice on the outside evil on the inside) and the complete opposite behind your back. It is very difficult to explain but they ALL behave in very similar ways. They play the same mind games, use the same tactics to destroy families. I can speak from personal experience as my ‘Pabi Jaan’ succeeded in tearing my parent’s home apart, and without ever breaking sweat. On arriving from Pakistan she hit the ground running. She wasted little time in working out how to wrap people around her fingers, starting with my brother. She was such a master of deceit that she could tactfully play 10 people in the family against each other, at the same time. A cool calculating assassin. The Italian Mafia could do with someone like her! This story is repeated up and down the country. When you first meet them they seem so innocent, so Ghareloo (homely) type. IT IS ALL AN ACT. An act which your brother is guaranteed to fall for. Very few of our brothers see through this facade. They fall for their fake charms and cannot comprehend that someone who prays 5 times a day can be bad. How and why do they do it? When you work them out, as our feedback proves, it is quite simple. They have certain goals to achieve in coming to the UK and they will not let us (straight forward British citizens) stand in their way. All the women have the same mentality. The following are the common goals;

1)      CONTROL OF THE HUSBAND - They would ultimately want full control of their husband’s so he, quite literally becomes their slave, and obeys their every command. Not that this will make them happy. Having achieved this they will still say you have done NOTHING for them. Ungratefulness is abundant in their character.

2)      SECURE THEIR INDEFINITE VISA/PASSPORT – Most people do not realise but obtaining British Nationality is the main reason these marriages have taken place. This is the reason there are so many mismatched arranged marriages. The criteria is not looks, education or status but simply that we are British and the want to be become British. It is as plain and simply as that.

3)      MONEY – Amongst our Pakistani community we do not realise that alongside obtaining nationality, the main reason these marriages take place is money. They do not love our brothers just the passport and money that comes from them. We often hear the classic statement ‘Walait jaasi tay pookhi thay nee maran lagi’ (If she goes to the UK at least she wont starve/ no-one starves in the UK). I believe this is not the only thought in the minds of families who marry their daughters to British Pakistani’s. They know that there daughters will send them money which they always do. If they start working here, all the money they earn is theirs, they do not spend a penny on their husband. It is hoarded away for themselves and their families.

4)      THEIR FAMILIES – They are crazy about their families, be they already in the UK or in Pakistan. They almost always succeed in getting their brothers and sisters to the UK. This is done either buy finding Rishtay (proposals) for them here or arranging visas for them. They maintain regular contact with their families, mainly via telephone as they are mostly illiterate to use email. They also secretly send their families money.

5)      PRODUCE CHILDREN – this is the sure way to trap the husband. They use the children as pawns to get to their husbands emotionally. This is in fact one of the first things that they work on.

6)      FAMILY DESTRUCTION – They can and do quite easily make family members fight to reach their goals. Usually, this is the husband against his sisters or parents or both. Whatever it takes. Quite often they get their father-in-law on their side and he fights her battles. Because they are professional actors they gain sympathy from their husband’s and play the victim (crocodile tears, mind games etc.). Because women can work out women they see the sisters-in-law (Nanan’s/Nand’s) and mother-in-law as the biggest threat to their mission hence they quickly deal with them. Most of our brother simply cannot work them out because they don’t think there is a problem with their wives, instead they can only see the so-called Zulm (abuse) which their mother and sister/s do on her.

WORKING HER OUT- The unknowing husbands take years, if ever, to work out what she is doing or has done, but because there are children involved they often continue with the marriage. He feels he is stuck. It is years sometimes before he realises he is living with the enemy. There is absolutely no appreciation for what he does for her. Our research has shown that there are very few men who worked out that the family problems in the home were being caused by their wives.

UNGRATEFULNESS – The level of ungratefulness of these women is phenomenal. They are completely unimpressed with the United Kingdom. If you buy a 42” Plasma TV or a Dyson vacuum cleaner they will say there brother bought one 5 years ago in Lahore. The same applies to the latest Nokia or that BMW you just bought. They never appreciate the amazing welfare system in the UK which provides free education, healthcare and child benefit for all. Ungratefulness is imbedded in there hearts.

THEY NEVER EVER GIVE UP – Due to being completely heartless, which is proven by their actions, they will not rest until they get what it is they came for, even if it means they end up getting a divorce. For some, divorce isn’t too bad, at least they won’t have a husband and in-laws to deal with. They will still be living in the UK with their British Nationality and have the social services to look after their every need. Some of the feedback we received from men described there wives as ‘snakes’. There is a saying in Pakistan; ‘Sap Paalna’. It means that if you keep a snake as a pet for a long time, one day given the opportunity it will attack you with its venom, because that is the nature of a snake, it cannot help itself. Can you see the analogy. They NEVER seem to tire of scheming and playing their games, often for years.

SHE WANTS FULL CONTROL OF EVERYTHING- the worst implications of this is the children will get wrecked. Look aroud you and think of any Pakistani home you know where there is a cunning woman in control of the house and see what has happened to the children especially the boys. She will hint to one member of the family and convince then that Zulm (injustice) is being done on her and make others fight her battles. She will always appear to be the innocent one.

BOYS, BOYS, BOYS- Due to their Jahalat, when these women give birth to a boy, in their eyes it is like receiving a Knighthood, a Phd or even conquering Everest. From the day the boys are born they are treated like princes who have a right to do ANYTHING they want. Due to being spoilt rotten by their Jahil mothers, in most cases they grow up to become arrogant, involved in crime and often have troubled marriages themselves.   The only analogy that I can draw is that these women are like ‘Terminators’. They left their homes with a mission, programmed by their mothers to seek and destroy the home they are going to. Just like the T1000 they never falter in their mission. If there is a set back they just pick themselves up and simply change their tact. They almost always achieve what they set out to do unless someone works them out and stops them.

Just like the men who come over here from Pakistan they make out;

a)      That they are highly educated. They ALL claim to have at least a Bachelors Degree. The reality is that most have never been past our equivalent of GCSE’s, and even if they do have a B.A./M.A. it does not mean that they are civilized and broadminded individuals. Quite the opposite, because a student in Pakistan who has obtained a degree is still Jahil because they learned everything by method of rote (Ratta), which means he memorized all his work and hardly understood anything.

b)      Their families are very rich back home. Nothing could be further form the truth. These women know that their gullible husbands will simply believe whatever they tell them and nothing can ever be verified.

c)      That the west is nothing to be impressed about, as they have seen it all in Pakistan. Has anyone one of you ever visited Pakistan? Need I say more.

d)      That they had refused so many good Rishtay in Pakistan for you. Why would anyone refuse a good Rishta?

Does any of the above sound slightly familiar. To many of you I am certain it does. What is extraordinary is the manner in which these actions are carried out. With total heartlessness. These women completely disregard that their husbands are sincere to them, love them, obey their commands, turn against their own families for them.

To conclude I can simply say that you should do all in your power to stop these marriages taking place. Why would any sister want to see their brother go through the hell that these women put them through, or want to marry a woman as described above.